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Millennials are working hard to create egalitarian relationshipsSep 03, 2016Millennials are working hard to create egalitarian relationships Both young men and women recognize that they want to create more egalitarian relationships than they witnessed in their parent’s generation, the baby boomers. How to do this is the question? I believe that there is a role for both men and women, whether in straight or gay relationships. Confusion is what I hear in my office. How do I have a relationship where we learn to share power? The upside of this revolution in relationships is that women are not tolerating men who are not responsible in relationships. Women are leaving relationships in much higher numbers than men. Women want men who are showing up as adults, not as irresponsible adolescents. Men want to contribute to decisions made on the domestic front and this shift requires women to relinquish domestic highground. These shifts have created a unique situation that over time will evolve into a new paradigm of egalitarian relationships. In the meantime, this is what I see and hear and what is confirmed by most if not all of the millennials with whom I work in individual and couple therapy. I will put these millennials’ statements in quotes with a generous helping of paraphrase. “I won’t settle for anything less than an egalitarian relationship. I would rather be alone. I will focus on what I want in life, my interests, my work, things that bring me enjoyment.”
All of these statements and many more I believe are the result of many of the millennials watching their parents and friends of their parents go through relationship distress and subsequent divorce. It is no wonder that the millennials want to redefine their relationships and that they are confused as to how to get there. |
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